Planning a funeral after the death of someone you love is often one of the hardest responsibilities you may ever face. In the midst of grief, you’re asked to make decisions, organise details, and somehow honour a life that mattered deeply. It can feel overwhelming, emotional, and at times completely surreal.
At Hughes Probate Services, we believe that every goodbye should feel personal and meaningful. A funeral doesn’t have to follow tradition or formality unless you want it to. It can be a celebration, a quiet reflection, or something entirely unique – what matters most is that it feels like ‘them’.
This guide walks you through the key steps to planning a funeral, helping you navigate the practicalities with a little more ease and clarity.
Step 1: decide what kind of funeral you want to hold
Before making arrangements, take time to reflect on what your loved one would have wanted. Some people are clear about their wishes before their death, while others leave it to family to decide.
Common types of funerals include:
- Traditional funeral with a structured service
- Celebration of life, focusing on joy, stories and memories
- Direct cremation followed by a wake or gathering
- Eco-friendly services, such as natural woodland burials
- Relaxed outdoor farewells in gardens, beaches or favourite places
Remember, there is no ‘right’ choice when it comes to planning a funeral – so try not to feel pressured into making certain decisions.
Step 2: choose the location
Funerals no longer need to be restricted to churches or crematorium chapels. Increasingly, families are choosing locations that hold personal significance, such as:
- A favourite park, beach or woodland
- A community or village hall
- A pub or private function room
- A family home or garden
- Natural burial sites
Whatever you choose, check that the space can accommodate the number of guests and is accessible for those who need to travel.
Step 3: plan the order of service
The order of service can be as simple or detailed as you wish. Many families include some or all of the following moments:
- A warm welcome or opening words
- Personal tributes or eulogies
- Music, poems or readings
- A moment of reflection, farewell or silent remembrance
- Closing words or a final celebration of their life
Step 4: add personal touches
The small details often make a funeral feel truly meaningful. Consider incorporating:
- Their favourite music or songs tied to memories
- A display of photos from all stages of their life
- A chosen theme or colour that represented them
- A memory book or message box
- Personal items, hobbies or keepsakes as décor
These touches help guests feel connected and create a tribute that reflects who they were beyond their death.
Step 5: book the suppliers you need
You don’t have to do everything alone. The right suppliers can guide, support and relieve pressure during an incredibly difficult time.
You may need:
- Funeral directors
- Celebrants
- Florists
- Coffin or urn suppliers
- Funeral cars or hearses
- Venue providers
- Musicians or live performers
Take your time choosing people you trust – those who understand the sensitivity of death and the importance of getting this moment right.
Has a loved one died? Do you need probate support?
Whether you are looking for support and advice on probate, creating a Lasting Power of Attorney or planning a funeral, the team at Hughes Probate Services are here to help you.
Shaped by her compassion and professionalism, Julie is on hand to support you through what can often be a difficult and emotional time. Get in touch with Julie today.